Covenant Marriage~Biblically What It Is and What Its Not

While the church is moving in the right direction somewhat as it concerns marriage, the religious culture produced by the church is still persecuting those coming out of broken abusive marriages. If the remarriage doesn’t conform to the traditions of man then you are cast out of the synagogue. Literally one finds herself abandoned yet again by the church.

The will and plan of God for covenant marriage, when perceived through religious bias, distorts the application of scripture concerning covenant marriage, life-saving divorce and remarriage. The biblical covenant marriage, and the Bible, must be read in context to have a rightly divided understanding of God’s will for covenant marriage. The church still wants the abused to pay homage to the pain already endured. Don’t even think about remarriage, you have made so many mistakes, you can’t possibly biblically chose a husband, your too broken. Please don’t introduce sex into the relationship until every family member and friend have decided if they approve of the choice, and you have paid ten of thousands of dollars and performed the wedding vows.

A covenant marriage is not created by wedding vows — which are man-made and grafted into the church wedding ceremony in the 1500’s by the Catholic Church (Google “origin of wedding vows”). “I do” does not constitute a biblical covenant marriage, commitment to marriage covenant behavior does. Marital covenant behavior is submitted to and reverences Christ (Ephesians 5:21). The covenant marriage therefore, and who God joined together, has a condition — behavior that reverences Christ: “Submit to one another out of reverence for Christ” (Ephesians 5:21). So those of us who have found love after divorce from a wicked, destructive, depraved and willfully injurious spouse…don’t you dare think that God is mad with you. God and the Angles in Heaven are rejoicing — the wages of sin is death not a spouse. And now that you are contemplating remarriage, again trust Jesus and submit to him as you make covenant with your new husband. Once your covenant has been made, you are married, not performing wedding vows, although the marriage license and the performance of the vows makes the marriage legal in the eyes of the law and in the eyes of our families and friends. Trust the Father that covenant made through submission is true marriage in the Kingdom.

While I travel this journey I am being taught by my good and precious Father the beauty of submission to Him and to this man I love. The work of happiness is only found in submission. My Father leads me down this the perfect path to marriage that makes the truth of marriage the only real truth through submission. If I make covenant with a man and I choose the path of submission out of reverence for Christ, I will ask the Lord everyday “how do I love him?” Daily the Lord will show me who he is and how I walk out in actions the respect I have for him. Daily he leads us, and I trust his leading. The marriage the Lord has for me was established before the foundation of the world.